Welcome to the club, Andy!
It seems many of us are victims of this atrocity! (*sigh*) I have a similar disclaimer on my website, however, I doubt that people who receive these spoofed spams are actually going to our websites to read it then say to themselves, "Oh, okay, these people are vicitims of identity theft, so I shouldn't get pissed off at them". No, I doubt this is what is happening. Instead, they are putting in complaints so that we are blocked.
Are you getting a lot of undeliverables from AOL? This is who I'm getting back from everyday like a swarm of bees in the last month (I've had hotmail, empal, yahoo, and a few others, but AOL is really frequent and what I'm getting most of right now). I even went to the
http://postmaster.info.aol.com link and did the test for open relay. I'm waiting for the response that they say they will send (I have a dedicated IP from LP, but when I tried to send a test email with the IP addy instead of domain name, I didn't get it back, so I'm not sure if I'll get their test message).
Does anybody know about this? Has anyone did this AOL open relay test, etc. and can share any info/results on it?
Would be real helpful.