Hi Bmatzelle,
Let me to try to help you with your questions:
1. Has anyone experienced this pain with sending mail to Homtail/Yahoo! Mail and managed to fix it?
Usually, properly formed email, SPF record for the domain and RDNS record resolving to your server, usually fixes this issue and emails go into the inbox instead of Junk/Bulk folder.
2. Can I switch the reverse DNS entry for 209.200.248.217 to my server's name "
www.vuzit.com"?
Yes, this is possible, but requires LP staff participation. There is also a setup fee of $35 for RDNS record setup.
3. Another option would be to relay our mail through a LunarPages server. Is that possible?
Nope, unfortunately, dedicated server does not get other SMTP servers available for sending emails except the ones that can be installed on the server itself.
I hope this helps. If you have any further questions, please update this post.