Hi Scotter,
I did read it and I did set the .com version as 'in Ireland' with google.
So, are you still using your site.com or have you redirected to site.ie? Right, you've already redirected it so you didn't need to take the bother in set the .com version as 'in Ireland' with google because it's already in site.ie.
If I do a search for info:www.mysite.ie google returns
www.mysite.com as the homepage. If I do a site:www.mysite.ie search google returns 246 results which I'm sure is the whole site (except for home page). I've submitted the site manually to Google and I've now set all versions of the domain to
www.mysite.ie.
Google last crawled the site on 21st October so hopefully in the next few days it will crawl again and see the new redirect settings.
Sure and you did it pretty well

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What we are seeing in that search is the cache and takes time to remove it and sometimes takes too much time but the web it's aware of your redirections, this is what the web sees of your site.com:
http://web-sniffer.net/?url=www.annsummersnights.com&submit=Submit&http=1.1&type=GET&uak=0so be patient.

I have no problem posting the live URL I just don't want to get in trouble with the mods here. I'll post it anyway and if a mod feels it should be removed then so be it. It's a Lingerie and Toys shop so the images are adult in content but nothing hardcore or anything like that. No nudity.
I don't see any problem, actually I like your site very much and I wonder how those lingeries would look on my girlfriend.

On a related matter.... does being on a shared server hurt SEO much?
None the least. Don't worry about that.
BTW I saw an Italian flag with a link to ?language=en why is that?
Cheers