Did some more testing.  

The connection to server dies in EXACTLY 60 SECONDS.

I've created a simple test to rule out any database issues.  So I created 3 very basic HTML files called test1.html, test2.html and test3.html - and all 3 are cross linked to one another and the only thing that's different in them is background color.

http://www.thenightcrowtribe.com/test1.html

I can click back and forth endlessly, it works fine, but as soon as I wait 60 seconds or longer between my click, it all goes kaboom.

My users will get 'connection reset' or whatever other generic browser message if they wait 60 seconds or longer w/out taking any action on my site.  The test above proves it is not database related in any way, the server simply dies (please go and test it yourself, if you wait 60 seconds or longer between the clicks you will see what I'm talking about)

heh, oddly enough the test link above started working, it no longer gives us any errors even if we wait 10+ minutes between the clicks.  My main site still has the same problems which is it will always give you a generic connection reset/timeout browser message if you wait for more than a minute between your actions on the site.